Why do men pay for sex?

Sex is a basic human need, just like food, love and shelter. Though most men and women need sex to climb up Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, it’s very much apparent that more guys pay for sex than females. There are many contributing factors to why this is, expectations from porn, less social pressures for monogamous relationships and boredom are just a few to name. Within this blogpost we are going to delve in (balls) deep and find out why men pay for sex..

It might often seem like a taboo subject, but the world is saturated with places where men can pay for sex.  A study by Fondation Cells estimated there are 40 million prostitutes globally, with a staggering 80 per cent of them being female. Many of these are high-class escorts, erotic masseuses, brothel workers and street walkers. So why are men paying for such services?

Expectations from porn

In the less decade, porn has become accessible to all. One tap into Google and you’ll be spoilt for choice with millions of X rated videos on various porn sites. Though we all love to watch porn, many phycologists believe it’s giving us unrealistic expectations of women and intimacy which sways many guys to pay for sex. Let’s look at female porn stars. Perky breasts, tiny waists and a big juicy bum seems to be the requirement to be successful in the industry. Not only are these women deemed aesthetically perfect within society, but they’re also super adventurous in the bedroom – which appeals to many guys. Deep throating, anal and the most daring sex positions are common within porn, which leaves many men fantasising without realising the realities. Many sex-workers cater to men who love porn, by often offering services such as ‘porn star experience’, ‘role-play’ and ‘water-sports’ within their description. These workers usually have a photo gallery, which showcases their flawless body in racy underwear or bikini. This leads the ordinary gentlemen to feel as though the only way they can maximise their sexual pleasures is to pay for it. Because after all, where are they going to find an ordinary woman who ticks all the boxes of a porn star.

Less relationship pressures

Just over 50 years ago it was expected that as a guy you would go to school, find a job, get married, move into a marital home and settle down to have kids. Nowadays, society is changing with men feeling as though they have more freedom to do as they please. Though finding a Mrs might not be as urgent, the need for sex is still there, which leads many men paying for sexual services. We’re not denying that many single guys regularly ‘pull’ on nights out, as well as using dating sites such as Tinder and Bumble for booty calls. However, some men don’t have the confidence to put themselves out there to hook up for casual sex. In recent years, TV shows such as Love Island have conveyed the ideologies than men need to be strong and have a six-pack to pull a stereotypical beautiful girl. This has left many guys feeling self-conscious and not good enough to initiate casual encounters with the opposite sex. To save embarrassment and to fulfil their needs, many men opt to pay for sex.

Boredom within the bedroom

We’re not going to beat around the bush here – it’s not just singleton men who pay for sex, copious married guys often seek sexual services too. We’re not here to condemn cheating, but we will suggest some reasons why husbands pay for sex with another women. After years of marriage, some men start to get bored in the bedroom. Many suggest they get tiresome of the same vanilla routine and crave excitement.  It’s also common for many married women to lose their libido as they get older, which leaves many husbands having no choice but to seek sex from elsewhere. So you’re probably wondering why these men don’t part ways with their wives and find a new lady in their life to reinstate the exhilaration which comes with a relationship. However, despite not having their sexual needs fulfilled, many of these are happily married and couldn’t imagine their life without their partner. Staying with their wife and paying for sexual services means they have the best of both worlds and maintains a healthy and happy life.

Work commitments

Society might be changing, with men and women coming more and more equal every day. However, it’s still apparent that males are higher up in the workplace (a whopping 78 per cent of CEOs are men) With high positions, come responsibility, which ultimately consumes a lot of time and cause a lot of stress. Many men with high-up jobs simply do not have enough time to sustain a relationship, nor do they have the hours in a day to arrange a casual encounter. Instead, they opt to pay a worker to fulfil their sexual needs. They find this a much easier way to seek sex. Time is precious in a high up job, so booking a professional service would mean they’re getting good sex, rather than arranging a casual hook-up with a female they might not be compatible with. It also means they aren’t pressured to seeing a certain someone again, as they are able to access sex spontaneously when they opt to pay for it. 

The sex industry has been around for centuries and is constantly evolving, men will still be paying for sex in years to come. However, as a patriarchal society continues to die out will we see a shift in more women seeking sexual services? We suppose only time will tell, but we are very interested in finding out..

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Are happy ending massages discreet?

Happy ending massages are everything a heterosexual man dreams about. Getting sensationally massaged and intimate with a drop-dead gorgeous masseuse is definitely up there with the crème de la crème of experiences. Though many men enjoy the wonders of happy ending massages many potential clients are concerned about one thing – is the service discreet?

Massage parlours understand that the majority of their clientele want to keep their happy ending massage a safe secret between them and the therapist. Therefore, the parlours put in special measures to ensure the happy ending massages they offer are as discreet as possible. Let’s start with incall first…

Did you know the bustling streets of London are made up of hundreds of happy ending massage parlours? Probably not. This is because happy ending massage parlours are usually disguised as luxurious private residences to protect client’s confidentiality. Most parlours often do not have a store sign or any indication it’s a massage centre. Just a small minority of parlours do have a shop front, but of course they never advertise happy ending massage from the exterior. The signs will usually promote something on the lines of Asian massage or Tantric massage, which are usual code words for erotic treatments – which will only be understand by the small minority in the know. Regular passers-by will be blissfully unaware that you’re seeking a happy ending massage.


Massage parlours are usually based in London’s luxurious houses without any signs.

Another precaution massage parlours take to keep the service as discreet as possible is not revealing the address online and only providing full location details when a booking is made. This stops information about the parlour coming into contact with the wrong hands.

Erotic massage parlours also try to keep customer information to a minimal to respect their confidentiality. When booking an incall, there is no requirement to tell the booking agents your name or what massage you want alongside your happy ending. All of this information can be discussed with your masseuse in private when you reach the parlour. All the booking agents need is your phone number, your choice of therapist and time you would like your session. All details are destroyed at the end of every working day, meaning there will be no trace of you having a happy ending massage.

So how discreet is happy ending massage once in the parlour? Well, every therapist is assigned their own treatment room and en-suite shower facilities. This all happy ending massages are conducted in private in the company of just yourself and the therapist. Erotic massage parlours often only have three treatment rooms and work on an appointment-only basis, the chances of bumping into another client while visiting for a happy ending massage is extremely unlikely. However, if you’d feel more comfortable you can request to wait in a private lounge for a therapist to become available, rather than the standard waiting room were you could encounter other clients.


The clients get their service in separate en-suit room.

Also, if you cannot make your appointment and don’t have the chance to let the booking team know then don’t worry – they aren’t going to start hassling you for a reason why you haven’t made it. If you’re a no show for your appointment then your details will be immediately erased from the system, ensuring there will be no trace of you booking a happy ending massage.  

So let’s move our attention to outcall. Of course, when booking a mobile-visit more client information is required to make a booking to ensure the therapist can easily find you. For a private residence your full address needs to be given, along with the street and apartment number. Though it’s not a requirement, it’s often recommended that you give your first name when booking an outcall to your house, apartment or private office space.



It’s important to know that it is essential you give your full name when arranging a hotel-visit. We ask for this as unfortunately some people try to make fake bookings to hotels. By giving your full name means that the booking agents can verify you as a guest at the establishment by contacting the hotel concierge. Of course, they’ll never disclose that you are booking an erotic massage but will instead just ask if they can be put through to your room. If they ask a reason why they are calling they’ll simply say it’s regarding personal reasons.  Once the booking agents have successfully been put through to your room they’ll quickly hang up and proceed with your appointment.

Once the therapist has arrived at your hotel, home or even private office space any evidence of your session will immediately be deleted from the system, which maintains a discreet service for all clients.

A common concern amongst clients booking outcall for the first time is what the masseuse will wear when she arrives. And no, she won’t turn up at your doorstep wearing the naughtiest lingerie. Instead, she always make her away to your address appropriately dressed – whether that being in jeans, a long coat or trousers. Your neighbours are sure to not bat an eyelid as a masseuse arrives at your location, they’ll probably mistaken her for a glamourous Avon lady! When possible, the masseuses will make their own way up to your room when booking an outcall to a hotel, this usually suits clients who desire a completely private service.


The masseuses are dressed modesty and usually wear jeans, long skirts or coats when going to your outcall booking so nobody notices them.

Whether you opt for incall or outcall, you can always be rest assured that your erotic massage will be super discreet. Here at Happy Massage client privacy is at the heart of everything we do, which is why we’d love you to come and experience our professional, seductive and relaxing massages at our Central London parlour or for a mobile visit across the capital. Our wonderful team of highly-trained oriental therapists can’t wait to get their talented soft hands on you and take you on a journey with a five-star tantalising erotic massage, all for as little as £120ph. If you want to make an appointment for a happy ending massage in London or find out more about our around-the-clock discreet services then please call our welcoming team of booking agents today

Is erotic massage legal?

Erotic massages, the only massage style which teases and tantalises every area of the male body, including the erogenous zones! While many of us worship the wonders which come with the adult bodywork, many see erotic massage as a grey area in the eyes of the law. While many are quick to judge erotic massage as illegal, we are here to assure you this is complete garbage. Come on, it’s the 21st Century, two consensual can conduct business in however way they want. In this post we are going to explore the wonders of erotic massage and its legalities.

So let’s get straight to the point with this. When you book an erotic massage, the service you are initially paying for is the massage, which of course is super legal. Anything that takes place after the massage is classified as an extra and is completely the choice of the client and the therapist, something the law can never interfere with. If you’re uneducated in this area you may believe erotic massage is a code word for sex, which is not the case at all. In fact, erotic massage parlours do not offer sex at all, instead just amazing massages which are seasoned with erotic elements. The only correlation between erotic massage and sex is that they involve naked skin-to-skin contact – and that is it. Erotic massage is sought due to its flurry of health benefits, not for sexual needs.

So why do so many people get it wrong and still believe erotic massage to be illegal? Well there are copious reasons why, but we often hold traditional massage therapists accountable who offer full body massage, but exclude the genital areas. Offering full body massage, but completely disregarding one area of the body makes many quick to perceive this area as bad. No one has any issues with having your neck, back and shoulders massaged so why are people turning their noses up at having the more intimate zones touched? It’s ridiculous to tarnish a small area of the body with negative perception, just because it is associated with sex. We all understand that sexual contact is an innate human need. We don’t wince at the thought of getting our hunger and shelter needs fulfilled, so why are many so concerned about getting our sexual needs satisfied too? Not including sexual contact within a massage is depriving our human need for intimacy, which is silly.

Another reason why people often perceive happy ending as illegal, is the confusion that massage parlours are the same as brothels. Brothels are often operated by pimps and prostitutes, who often sell sex to make money very quickly. Brothels are usually overcrowded, noisy and dingy environments, which are utilised by seedy males who are seeking a quicky. This is hugely different to erotic massages, whose services often appeal to the well-respected gentlemen. These gentlemen often have stressful jobs, who seek the company of an erotic therapist to unwind after a long day at the office. We understand that many of these men have an appetite for the finer things in life, with erotic parlours tailoring their premises and services to meet their high expectations.

So what can you expect at an erotic massage parlour? Well believe it or not, many erotic massage parlours are easily mistaken for five star hotels. Complete with a plush arrival lounge where you’re able to meet the therapists, private treatment rooms and en-suite shower facilities, which clients can use free of charge before or after the massage. Due to client demand, erotic massage parlours are usually situated in major cities in the likes of London, Tokyo and Paris. From the naked eye erotic massage parlours are disguised, with the exterior being masked as luxurious private residences. Some believe this is because they are illegal, which is completely untrue. Instead, massage parlours are disguised to suit the clients who opt for a discreet service.

Just like other professional companies, erotic massage parlours pay their taxes and meet the necessary government regulation regulations. To be an erotic therapist, the girls have to apply for a licence which shows that they are over the age of 21, are healthy and are trained in massage therapy. Once the certified licence is obtained, the girls have to undergo regular health screening and fortnightly STI testing to ensure their safety for not just them, but the clients also. As a double precaution, protection is worn during an erotic massage at all times. Clients who request for protection not to be used more than once, risk a life-time ban from an erotic massage parlour.  Client safety is taken very seriously at massage parlours and is not something they will be lenient with.

Another point to make is that it’s extremely derogatory to label a massage therapist as a prostitute. These therapists work very hard in massage training schools to craft the art of seduction and Tantra, before moving to elite parlours to showcase their sensational talents on high class gentlemen. Tantra is based upon the ideology that the male body is a temple and thereby should be worshipped; one of the main ways of doing this is massage. The small similarity between an erotic masseuse and a prostitute is that they both provide intimacy.

So we hope we’ve assured your mind that erotic massage is soothing, seductive and sex – a far cry from an illegal service. If you’re ready to take the plunge and book an erotic massage today then we have a gorgeous team of oriental therapists who are ready to take you on a journey with their tantalising talents. Erotic packages are available from just £120, so just call the friendly and helpful booking agents to arrange your session today.

Why We Love Nuru

Finally, the winter is finally coming to an end and the first signs of Spring are truly on their way. The sun is out and everyone is in a happier mood, and what better way to celebrate than by having a Nuru massage?

I talked with some of our customers who swear by Nuru massages and have gave us some feedback on why they love and enjoy this unique massage style so much –

Philip, 36

“Nuru massage therapy is one of those erotic massage styles that allow you to experience the true taste of Asia. Originating in Japan, this amazing massage uses special nuru gel made from Nori seaweed to allow the masseuse to slip and slide all over your naked body easily. Luckily whenever I go to my local massage parlour for this service I am always delighted that a genuine Japanese masseuse performs it. Not only does the massage therapist know how to perform a nuru massage to perfection, it also makes it feel a lot more authentic. The thing i love the most about a nuru massage is the close body to body contact between the masseuse and I. The nuru gel allows her naked body to slide over mine easily, which is really arousing. I usually get the nuru massage with the added addition of a happy ending massage which always allow me to have that extra bit of relief that I need. He Nuru massage transports you from London into a world of relaxation in the alps of Japan! It is quite the experience.”

Gareth, 24

“Being a young professional, I get to travel around quite a lot as a perk of my job. Last year I spent some time in Tokyo where I enjoyed the local cuisine, music, art and night life. You can say I fully immersed myself in Japanese culture, if you get what I mean. When I came to back to London I couldn’t stop thinking about the incredible and life changing Nuru massage I had in one of the massage parlours. I was very sceptical that I would find a massage parlour in central London that would be able to give me the same experience to such a high standard, but I was willing to give it a go. Luckily I found an authentic Asian massage parlour in Marylebone that had genuine Japanese girls who performed Nuru massage therapy and it was just as good, if not better, than my experience in Japan. The masseuse used real Nori seaweed Nuru gel and used the same methods as the masseuse in Japan did. She knew exactly what she was doing and seemed to understand the true meaning of Nuru massage. She made me feel extremely relaxed yet highly aroused at the same time. I had a soapy shower massage afterward which she assisted me with and it was very passionate and refreshing. I was extremely happy with my Nuru massage experienced and recommended it to my work colleagues who also had one while we in Tokyo on business and they were all just as pleased with it as I was.”

Tobias, 41

“Nuru massage therapy is the only massage that can make me feel completely Zen, relaxed and satisfied. The close contact between the masseuse and client is very intimate which something I enjoy is very much in an erotic massage. A Nuru massage is never boring and always brings a sense of thrill and excitement with it. I always pick the same Japanese masseuse to perform my massage and she does it perfectly. She applies the thick, cool gel all over my skin and uses her naked body to slip and slide all of her curves across my body, paying attention to sensitive areas such as my penis and inner thighs. I highly enjoy this service and always get it when I am feeling stressed or anxious about anything in life. It is soothing and arousing all at the same time, helping me to relieve lots of things in many different ways.”

We are based in central London and are open 10am until 3am daily, providing you with not only Nuru massage therapy but a long list of exciting erotic massages. We provide both incall and outcall services and you can choose any masseuse you want for your session!

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Lingam vs happy ending – what is the difference?

The world is made up of many misconceptions and one of these being is Lingam and happy ending are the same. While we can understand the confusion, the adult bodyworks are incredibly different and both are beautifully unique. Here is Lingam vs happy ending, the differences explained.

Lingam is rich in history

Impressively, Lingam is one of the world’s oldest massages and has routes dating back to 4000 years ago. First practiced in India, Lingam was created based on Tantra ideologies that the male body is a temple and the manhood is a ‘wand of light’. With this in mind, females should honour the male erogenous zones by the form of massage. Lingam quickly flourished in popularity in the East, but has only found its feet in the Western world in the last 50 years.

Happy ending is a super modern concept

Just like Lingam, happy ending stems from Asia but was only introduced to the massaging world in last century. In the early 20th Century, China was saturated with Red Light Districts, brothels and walk-ins where prostitutes worked day and night. The Chinese authorities and people were not happy and called for stricter guidelines on the selling of sex. Massage was already a big part of Chinese culture as it had been used as a healing mechanism for hundreds of years. However, it was only at this point that the Chinese recognised how massage and sexual elements could be a winning combination. Of course, massage is on side of the law and whatever goes on between two consensual adults after the massage is totally legal. As many governments began to clamp down on the sex industry worldwide, a demand for happy ending grew across the globe. It may seem stereotypical many happy ending masseuses are Chinese, but the reality is the majority of them are.

Lingam is super spiritual

As Lingam ideologies regard the male genitalia as sacred, it’s easy to see Lingam practitioners are spiritual. They teach in order to worship a male, Chi (stress) needs to be flushed out of the Sen Lines by the power of massage. Chi build-up is mostly unwelcomed in the erogenous zones, which is why Lingam massage pays prominent attention to the penis, testicles and scrotum. They believe once the Chi is eliminated, the body, mind and soul harmonise and thereby, gives the individual a new lease of life. Most Lingam massages lead to orgasm, however ejaculation isn’t essential to enjoy the benefits of the treatment.

Happy ending is usually an add on to other styles

While Lingam is a massage in its own right, happy ending is the procedure which comes after the massage, not the bodywork itself. Happy ending is usually deemed as the grand finale of many erotic massages, including Nuru, Tantric and sensual. The happy ending element is the act of hand-relief, but don’t misconceive it as a glorified handjob. As the massage progresses, the therapist will start to incorporate edging techniques into the treatment. To perform edging, the masseuse will gently glide down your manhood. As you begin to show signs of reaching a euphoric climax she will manoeuvre her sensual fingertips to another part of the body. The process will be repeated again and again to intensify the pleasure, before you finally reach a point of no return. Happy ending almost always promises orgasm.

They both have similar benefits

While their backgrounds and purposes maybe different, naturally Lingam and happy ending massage poses similar benefits to a male’s well-being – meaning it’s a winner which ever treatment you opt for. Benefits of both massages include:

  • Eliminates pain – By boosting the amount of the body’s natural painkillers endorphins, which mask the pain signals from entering the central nervous system
  • Stress relief – By massaging out the ‘stress hormone’ Cortisol which is found in all areas of the body, including the erogenous zones
  • Promotes better mental health – Orgasm has proven to boost Dopamine, Oxytocin and Serotonin which are vital for positive mind set

Lingam and happy ending is offered in many parlours across London, including here at Happy Massage. For an authentic, professional and high class treatment then do give us a call to arrange your seventh heaven session today: 07818115239

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